Age and the season of weird.

Being a mom is challenging, as I’m sure every mother under the sun will agree.  Being an older mom is even more challenging, and not for the reason you think. I’m a good ten years older than my mommy counterparts, and yes, I’m not as energetic or physically capable but that’s not the hard part.  The hard part is being alone.  

When all your peers (in age) have older kids that are in primary or even high school, and you have a toddler and a new born, the timing is never good.  Bedtime is smack in the middle of what would be your average “go out and have fun” time.  Your sleep is precious and so once the kids are asleep your ability to add another thing to the evening is near impossible.  It’s especially hard if you’re a working mom, cause now every spare minute is spent preparing for the next day and trying to get as much time in with your kids means that weekend family time is precious and crucial to everyone’s survival.

So what do I do now? How do I navigate this season of seemingly “forced” isolation?  So far not much, with the baby up at 5am and the toddler in his cranky “threenager” stage I will admit that I haven’t had three minutes to asess my life and it’s empty friend corner till a few weeks ago.  So the answer is coming slowly, as with most revelations these days.  When I find a spare ten minutes, and have the energy to ponder life, some things are very clear.  

Don’t stay isolated.  

Keep connected somehow.  So mommy group every week is crucial. Needed.  Essential.  

As far as the rest goes, like going to church or get-togethers, they will have to fit in when they fit in.  I apologise to my friends who don’t get to see me, my season is extreme and completely overwhelming, but I’m learning how to navigate through it, and I’m sure I’ll come out the other side sooner or later.

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Hair Magician

Believe it or not, I am quite fussy about how my hair looks.  It’s colour and cut, i’m not really worried about styling as my curl doesn’t lend itself to anything without hours of effort and lets be real here, I aint got time for that.  So a good cut to show of the curl and great colour to cover the grey is all i’m after.  I’ve had a couple of hits and misses over the years and now that i’m 38 years old (eeep!) it’s getting more difficult to find a blonde colour that doesn’t make me look mutton dressed as lamb, until yesterday.

Enter The Hair Salon and a magician named Cindy.  A quick five minute consult and we went through all my woes and fears of being older, not wanting to be a brassy blonde, not liking the idea of high maintenance and how my hair had turned to straw with pregnancy, also the box dye episode to get some sanity etc…and she and the owner of the salon, Jean, came up with a wonderful solution.  Highlights spread throughout the head and then a toner in a ash blonde.

They managed to get the foils, toner, treatment, cut and dry within three hours – amazing – and I have never seen my hair look more natural since I started colouring it 20 years ago!  I am truly astounded.  It’s not a “hey look at me” kind of colour, but it’s like she read my mind, it’s EXACTLY what I’ve been looking for! I am in love with it, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I love that it’s low maintenance (only need to touch up every three months) and it’s natural looking, so I don’t look like a bottle blonde and bonus, my hubby LOVES it – growl. So I am sorted.

I am blessed.

If I could give the last four days a definition it would be “the hardest year of my life” even though it has only been four days, it feels like forever.

As a wife and mom of two I think I just blithely forgot how blessed I am with my hubby who is ├╝ber involved in our family life. He cooks, looks after crying toddlers in the night and takes the first shift of feeds for the baby at night too.  He’s amazing, oh, and did I mention he has his own I.T. business too?  

So when we heard he had to have minor surgery that would leave him on “light work” for three weeks I cried. I cried because I knew I’d be on my own and have to dig deep with kids and home and taking him to and from the hospital in our neighbouring city.  I would have to be the toddler soother, carry to bed, rock the baby to sleep person till he is strong enough to lift heavy things. 

It has been a rough weekend, and I am grateful for ladies in my life who took it upon themselves to bring dinners to help ease the load.  I am grateful to our nanny for being available and staying over to help with the kids the first two nights, I am super grateful that the operation went well and he has come home in one piece.

How to: Baby food

So my son is eating solids now, he’s Five and a half months, chomping like a champion.  I try make all his food, especially the first foods, cause, well, then I know exactly what’s in it and it’s a bit more budget friendly.  I thought I’d include a little “how to” on the blog for those that were asking.

You will need: 1 x small butternut peeled, de-seeded and chopped into small chunks.

A small pot and a little water for boiling.

Boil the butternut till super soft and squishy, take some water off – I leave about half a cup of water for a small butternut. Using a stick blender, blend till very very smooth.  It should be the consistency of custard, this will freeze and defrost well.

I store in plastic 70ml containers in the freezer but you can also use ice cube trays, clean glass jars or freezer bags to store.

Defrost in microwave gently, stir well to make sure there aren’t any hot spots.

Don’t keep longer than a month iiton the freezer to be safe, and always taste check before giving to baby to make sure it’s still yummy.

So far we’ve done butternut and sweet potatoes with our second one, we’ll be moving onto home made oats soon.

Some veggies I’ve done before: zucchini/baby marrow – not very popular, but mixed with some butternut it goes down well. 

Mashed potatoes – make it quite runny so it defrosts nicely.

Pease, corn, carrots, and peppers (not too much, this can be a flavour addition to other veg)

Fruits are so easy – apples, pears, berries, peaches, plums (go easy with the plums they are, after all, baby prunes).

Bananas you can just mash and give straight, but see how their tummies respond cause they are prone to cause constipation.

Avo – probably the best thing ever, just mashed plain is amazing.

When baby gets bigger and used to single foods you can start blending them and adding spices to make it super delicious.

Do you have an amazing recipe for baby food that you use? Share it with me! 

 

Monday

What is it about Monday that is so difficult to get the wheels turning?!  Perhaps the lazy weekend? Or perhaps the mental leap of looking after two kids over two relaxed days to managing an office and staff for five is quite a jump?

Any way you slice it Monday will always be there, so get the coffee on, and give it your best shot.

Friday Fun.

So it’s the second morning waking up before 05:00 because my son is changing his sleep patterns.  Bonus extra though is that he’s been off his reflux meds for a whole week. A. Whole. Week. That’s a HUGE deal for us and a significant growth milestone for him. Happy tears are shed regularly.

Feeding of solid foods to my little one is going well, if momma just remembers it would be a bit more regular.

Second week of being back at work with my hubby. Good idea, bad idea. Got to make the most of it and hopefully we’ll make a great team when the initial getting used to phase is over.

Got to photograph a graduation event yesterday, not usually my cup of tea, but this crowd are good friends and great fun so it was worth every minute.  I’ll post some snippets on my photography page over the weekend.

Lastly, we are having a day off to go see a surgeon in PE for hubby, so fun day off, not so fun day off. 

Hope your weekend is amazing!